He Said - She Said

He Said - She Said


One thing that I can’t understand is the emails I get from the men or woman who can’t find love and complain about the other gender’s motivation for being here.  I’ll explain what I don’t understand later.

A day hardly goes by I don’t get an email from a male member saying that the ladies' he talks to are only interested in money. A day hardly goes by that I don’t get an email from a lady member saying the men she talks to only want  sex or to play head games. Both the male and lady member's intentions are to find true love.

Ok, here is what I don’t understand. If a day doesn’t go by where I don’t get an email from a male or lady member questioning the other gender’s sincerity in finding love, how come these members are not finding each other? If both member's true intentions are to find love, why the heck are they not hooking up? Neither gender has a monopoly on blaming the other for their lack of sincerity.

Without knowing the details of every situation,  I will make this assumption -- the blame can be shared equally and each gender needs to take more responsibility for their quality of search. If a lady complains about meeting only play boy types, she may be coming across both in style and mannerism that is the type of man she is interested in. If a man complains about only meeting ladies who want money, I wonder if he isn’t bragging about what he owns to attract ladies. I’m sure that isn’t always the case, but after years of getting emails of  one gender blaming the other, I can’t help to think there may be some truth to my thoughts.

Here is a another fact. These complaints are in the minority compared to membership size. But as a webmaster who tries his best to make a place for everyone to find the same happiness that Eileen and I have found, it only takes a few of these emails to rain on my parade.  I want everyone to be happy. I want everyone to find love. Thank goodness I get emails from members saying they found the love of their life to keep my spirits from drowning in the rain.

Lets just say that this site's goal is for members to find love and happiness. I can't dictate or tell you how to go about it. For what it's worth, I can share with you some of my thoughts. There are many thoughts that run through my head when thinking of those days searching for love,  but the one thought that always stood out when I tell people how I found love is "it took persistence and not giving up." The day I found Eileen was because of the many days before when I didn't find her.

Good luck

Here is one my favorite songs about finding love


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