Rabbit

Rabbit


Forgive me for the crude analogy but a man who jumps from hole to hole is known in the dating world as  a Rabbit.  He gets involved with one lady, loses interests and jumps to another lady.  It seems we have a few Rabbits on the site.  So this message is directed towards all those Rabbits (you know who you are).

A Rabbit causes me a lot of work. Why? I will get tons of emails from ladies who have been abandoned by the Rabbit wanting to know what happen. Pleading with me to help.  My inbox is full of messages that I’d rather not have to deal with.

What ticks me off about Rabbits is the trail of broken hearts they leave behind is not necessary. Here is a Rabbit's characteristics.

1. He is a charmer

2. Confess his feelings way to early in a relationship only to change it later

3. Makes promises he can’t or won’t keep

4. Leaves  without a trace (or strings several ladies along).

Mr Rabbit, do  me and the ladies a favor, keep your feelings  in check until you are absolutely 100% sure she is the one.  If you are confessing your love within a few emails or weeks after meeting a lady than you probably have the Rabbit syndrome.  Keep your conversation friendly, but feelings should stay on the side line until you had a chance to get to know the lady. Only after spending some time getting to know each other should you express any feelings.

If you continue with the Rabbit mentality, you are not marriage material. I advise ladies to stay away. Good chance if you did marry the Rabbit, he would cheat on you if someone else came along that caught his eye. I know he is hard to resist….his charm is  irresistible, but if he is laying it on thick early in the relationship, RUN from this guy before you become a victim.

Mr. Rabbit, I had several emails from ladies whose hearts you have broken when it wasn't necessary if you would of taken the time to get to know her before confessing love. Better yet, Mr. Rabbit, take the time to get to know yourself because you have a problem. The problem isn’t that you want to find love, the problem is the way you go about it. If your Rabbit habits didn't cause me a lot of work, I would have no problem, but it does cause me a lot of work. Suddenly, I'm a webmaster of  a Dear Abby site instead of a dating site. If you wake up one morning and your account has been deleted, you will know I got tired of all the emails from ladies who you confessed love to within a few weeks of meeting them to only jump to another lady when it suited your Rabbit mentality. Stop it. Be sure of your feelings before telling a lady you love her, want to marry her, kiss her, etc.  Just stop it.
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Comments/Discussion

SilverDimes

  • Posted on 07/28/2011 06:49 am
@Steven Any man with confidence and self control will be able to handle that kind of situation. My advice, when a woman comes on "serious", is to answer her silly questions truthfully. Already on FE I've had a woman do that to me, and on ASW as well. It's how you as a man handles these situations that gives the conversation a positive or negative outlook.

If she REALLY gets serious, then "give her some space." That is, If she emails you 2 or 3 times everyday, you respond once, wait 4 or 5 days if you can, and respond again, assuming she keeps emailing. This will show her true colors, as, if she is a genuine woman (as I believe most of the members on these 3 sites are) she will understand that you have a life and you can get busy.

BUT, If she has a bad attitude, or you think she is someone who is not suitable for a relationship, will be demanding. Think about this for a moment...she gets mad because you didn't email her everyday? Geeeeez.

I think this message needs to be 1,000 characters or less, so, if you have any questions, feel free to PM me and we can have a discussion. I'm sure right now that there are many people who read this and will disagree with me, so I welcome anyone to PM me and I'll be more than happy to discuss my views with them; as well as listen to theirs.

Chris.


Steven54

  • Posted on 05/13/2011 03:05 pm
I have this question, What do U call A Woman who does this to men,,,,,,,, I am still learning, but 5 weeks ago(did not understand or think on Flags) A lady came on to me, to fast, Now I see many flags, Quick Thank U C. Dan


TruLoveWaits

  • Posted on 12/16/2010 07:36 pm
Dan: Sir, thanks for this article. HE exactly FITS the description of a RABBIT...


MarkusReborn

  • Posted on 08/06/2010 04:25 pm
I courted my Filipina wife for nearly five years as a pen pal. I did not profess love to her for over a year, and only after exchanging dozens of letters. If a man professess love within the first few months through simply IM or chat messages... it's rushing things.

God bless all the sincere caring ladies on this site and a curse on those evil men who make a game of love and emotionally hurt these Filipinas.

My two cents... thanks for the article, Dan.


dan

  • Posted on 07/21/2010 12:49 pm
I'm getting a lot of flak for the above article. Maybe I need to be more precise. Here goes.

Breakups and relationship hurdles are part of life. It happens to all of us.

However what I'm referring to is a lot more than just normal relationship lessons in life. To be more precise, I have had more than my share of members who meet a lady, within a week confesses love, breaks up, meets another lady, confesses love, breaks up, and so on with no indication it will ever end. I won't name names, but have had some members at last count as high as 30 broken hearts within 30 weeks with a never ending cycle of doing it again, and again, and again. My only request is don't confess love within the first week, or even the first month, of meeting a lady, especially a lady who feels vulnerable and lonely.

Make friends first, get to know each other, and in time you will find the lady meant for you. It is much easier to tell a friend that friendship is all that may become of your relationship than to confess love to a lady and later walk away leaving a trail of tears for her to remember you by.